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‘Keep trying, keep learning, keep fighting’ ...

Sandy Allen
June 10, 2026

Welcome to What’s Helping Today, a newsletter about the everyday work of staying alive on earth — written by author and journalist Sandy Ernest Allen.

Hey all,

Just wanted to share the exciting news that Lyz Lenz has republished my ‘humanifesto’ Transgender for Everybody on her wonderful newsletter Men Yell at Me:

"Transgender for everbody" | Men Yell at Me

"Transgender for everbody" by Men Yell at Me on Patreon. Join Men Yell at Me's community for exclusive content and updates.

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Please consider supporting Lyz via her Patreon.

She also has a great, new-ish podcast that I recommend you all check out:

Dingus of the Week Podcast

Podcast · Lyz Lenz · Dingus of the Week: A weekly comedy news podcast. Your co-hosts, Lyz Lenz and Zach Smith, will focus on everything that is the epitome of all that is silly, awful, enraging, and ridiculous in politics or popular culture. Also, some good things too!

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Thanks to Lyz for sharing my essay with her audience. The response so far has been amazing.

What’s Helping Today are the things readers have said, like:

Brilliant! Clear and informative :heart emoji:

Mom of a non-binary kid here. Thank you for sharing Sandy’s essay. It helps all of us feel like our community is bigger when we get to read such pieces and meet new-to-us writers.

Vital, brilliant, heartfelt words - thank you for sharing, sandy. Thank you for promoting Sandy’s work, Lyz. Understanding the diversity of our biology, and living with love & empathy seems so very simple. These concepts *should* be so simple. But alas.

This was an excellent read, equal parts enlightening, heartbreaking and inspiring. Thank you, Sandy, and thank you, Lyz. I will be thinking about this, and about what I can do to be a better ally for trans people. I have a gender non-conforming kid, so this is a topic very close to my heart that I am doing my best to learn more about every day. It’s always on my mind. It’s hard not to feel like I’m powerless, like I’m failing my kid. Ugh. Just have to keep trying, keep learning, keep fighting, I guess. <3

‘Keep trying, keep learning, keep fighting’ is the exact right spirit, in my opinion ...

Here are a few other links to previous posts of mine that may be of interest …

Dear Sandy #5: I feel kinda helpless

how cis adults can support trans kids they know

What's Helping Today • Sandy Allen

"dealing with blind fucking rage"

Dear Sandy #9: Advice for a father of a trans kid ...

What's Helping Today • Sandy Allen

And here’s that link again:

"Transgender for everbody" | Men Yell at Me

"Transgender for everbody" by Men Yell at Me on Patreon. Join Men Yell at Me's community for exclusive content and updates.

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I encourage you all to read it — if you haven’t already — and to share it wherever you share things!

Alright, that’s it for today. I’ll be back with a more typical What’s Helping Today soon; I’m working on a big, fun one for Pride …

Thanks for reading,
Sandy

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